I am a (almost) 43 year old woman and still trying to figure out life. Is it or should it be about love, finances, family?
is it possible to find true love and after 14 years it just disappears or is it maybe that I have lost sight of it? I truly know what love is due to becoming a grandmother(very intense) but I seem to be in a rut here. I still feel I am too young to sit around at home and watch the everyone else have fun and enjoy life, but at the same time I really enjoy staying home and enjoying the quiet(without the hubby)
it seems to me that everyday is a struggle to enjoy my homelife because it is always the same ole stuff. I GO TO WORK, COOK , CLEAN, MAKE SURE COFFEE IS READY FOR THE AM, LAUNDRY,....................and I FEEL LIKE MY PARTNER DOESN'T EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE THIS,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,I love my husband but i am always thinking @ what life would be if we weren't together.......
Please tell me Im not alone
5 comments:
It's easy to loose site of what we have. Can't tell you what to do, just that usually what we think is on the other side of the fence really isn't there. A be careful what you wish for kind of scenario. Maybe you could just try asking your husband what he appreciates about you. You might be surprised.
Thanks for the input. I know that what you say is reality, I guess my thoughts are that it would be easier to take care of just myself you know back to basics and all. Im tired of all the "expectations"
my venting can go on and on..he doesnt help @ house, we are always broke unless he wants to buy something. he even eats my ice cream (1/2 gallon) when he has his 5 gallon crate in freezer. heres a ringer. we dont even have sex except maybe once a month or even 6 weeks......i will email you and u can give me unbiased advise
As Sheila said, be careful what you wish for. I am Sheila's brother. I got divorced after 15 years of marriage last year. I am now going on two years of being on my own. There are times the silence is almost unbareable. There are pro's and con's to my situation.
I think people have a tendancy to take things for granted. Let say like our health. We always assume we will be healthy. One day we won't. We need to enjoy it while we have it. Maybe we just take for granted that the person we are with knows they are appreciated.
I agree with Sheila ask him what he appreciates about you. Also think about what you appreicate about him. It takes two people working together to make things work.
Here is a post that I posted back in September to my blog. This is how I think things should be for people. The lady I was talking with is 93. She described part of her life to me and she talked very fondly of her decesed husband.
http://adayandalifeinfortwayne.blogspot.com/2008/09/remembering-good-old-days.html
Feel free to email me or I'm off this weekend if you need me to meet you for coffee. Just let me know.
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